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Tantric Touch

Tantric Touch

Tantric touch is different from other forms of touch because it’s purely for nurturing and pleasure. Tantric touch is accepting, welcoming, innocent, without agenda, and seeks to explore sensuality in a way that is nurturing and life giving.

Tantric touch is a way to explore pleasure to new depths of delight. Tantra is a way to receive and give touch that is respectful, honouring, patient, loving and kind. The way we touch conveys meaning and that meaning can be felt by the person receiving the expression of the hand.

In most kinds of therapeutic touch or massage the sensual and sexual parts of bodies are appropriately kept covered and separate. In tantra these intimate parts of us are not seen as separate from the rest of the body and may be included (though this is not required). Conscious Tantric touch can be totally delicious simply on someone’s face, shoulders, arm or leg.

♥ Be fully present in the moment. Bring your attention to the person you are with, fully accept them and have kind loving intent for them

♥  Be aware of how you touch the other person, not too firm, or too loose, use a reassuring touch with medium pressure to communicate your love and care

♥  Thoughtfully use your hand to understand your partner’s body, scan their body slowly by touching them from head to toe

♥  Bring emotion into your touch, love, nurturing, compassion and passion

♥  It is the brain which transforms our experiences into feelings of pleasure and bliss. The best techniques will give deeper results as the mind and body connection is opened

Tantric touch is touch without agenda, other than to be experienced fully. There is no focus on performance or goals. Both giver and receiver are fully in the moment and open to thoughtful and respectful loving connection. When conscious tantric touch is used between partners there is more space to feel pleasure, emotion, loving touch and bliss.

In Tantra we are fully present in the moment, breathing with our partner, allowing the touch to flow. The more present we are in ourselves, and as partners in the moment, the more our partner will feel held and safe to surrender to sensual nurturing bliss through tantric touch.

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Tantra is a celebration

Tantra is a celebration

Tantra is a celebration and awakening of sexuality, love and life that embraces our spiritual essence. It focuses on intimacy as an opportunity for healing and transformation, joy and bliss.

– Leora Lightwoman, Tantra the Path to Bliss

Quote of the Day

Quote of the Day

It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.

Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.

― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

Latest Review

Latest review

It’s always a wonderful to receive a review. Recently I received a testimonial from a client that has seen me many times. Through the tantra sessions I’ve created they have experienced the joy, intimacy and nurturing sensuality that tantra can bring.

Here’s their review, of what they call “The Ella Way”

I have been practicing the art of Tantric Massage for over a decade now and have visited many establishments both in the uk and across the globe. I have experienced a wide range of how Therapists interpret what a Tantric Massage looks like. By this I mean I’ve experienced a quick back rub followed by very uninspiring happy ending style massages, all the way to let’s call it “The Ella Way”.

Ella is by far the most genuine, warm, caring and experienced tantric I’ve come across. I first met her about 10 years ago and was “wowed” by her sensual techniques and closeness. I saw her again this week after she took a career break and omg her talents and experience as well as life growth blew me away.

The massage, breath work, and her “being in the moment “ was nothing short of sensational. She is simply a beautiful human being both inside and physically.

If you are in London and want to experience a genuine, authentic and passionate massage experience then Ella is your “only” choice.

As I said to her this week “You should come with a Government Health Warning “ as her talents are out of this world.

Until the next amazing adventure…… Love Rich x

Read more of the reviews I’ve received here

Mindful Tantra Techniques to Cultivate Deeper Intimacy

Mindful Tantra Techniques to Cultivate Deeper Intimacy

1. Physical Space

What we surround ourselves with, objects, spaces, people, these all affect our quality of life, our levels of intimacy and pleasure. In Tantra, curating our surroundings is about creating sacred space and the idea is to create a sensual ‘nest’ for your intimate practice. Mindful tantra techniques enable you to engage with your five senses within your environment.

For sight, make sure your room is tidy, and light some candles. For sound, have a sensual playlist that is both soothing and inspiring. For taste, have some fruit and chocolate. For smell, use essential oils or incense. For touch have soft blankets, silky sheets, and lots of pillows for comfort and support.

2. Spiritual Self

An authentic connection with your lover begins by being present. Meditation or breath work can be a great way to enable you and your partner to be fully present in the current moment. There are a variety of simple mediation practices for cultivating mindfulness, a simple one is to sit with a straight spine, focus on breathing into your belly, and then count 21 consecutive breaths. Mindful tantra techniques enable you to cultivate a mindful presence.

3. Deepening the Connection

To deepen the connection between you and your partner you can sit facing each other, perhaps the female, or more ‘yin’ partner, on the male, or more ‘yang’ partner’s, lap. Then you can practice breathing in harmony and count 21 or more breaths together. After syncing your breath for a period of time, heartbeats and brainwave patterns have been known to synchronise, this is called ‘entrainment’.

4. Touch and Full Body Scan

After synchronising through breathing practices, you can continue cultivating sensual intimacy with a light massage all over the body. Mindful tantra techniques enable you to heighten the sense of touch and continue soothing the nervous system, you can also introduce different textures of sensation, such as feathers, soft cloth, or warm oil with a few drops of skin safe essential oil.

Adapted from an original article, read the full post here

Divine Energy

Divine Energy

Tantra is a series of practices and teachings that help us realise that the world is filled with divine energy

― Sally Kempton, Awakening Shakti: The Transformative Power of the Goddesses of Yoga

Image credit Nasa, from an article in New Scientist

Quote of the day

Quote of the day

Yoga is not a religion. It is a science, science of well-being, science of youthfulness, science of integrating body, mind and soul.

We all are so deeply interconnected; we have no option but to love all. Be kind and do good for any one and that will be reflected. The ripples of the kind heart are the highest blessings of the Universe.

― Amit Ray, Yoga and Vipassana: An Integrated Life Style

Mindfulness Can Help Your Creativity

Mindfulness Can Help Your Creativity

Mindfulness can help your creativity by enabling you to be focussed in the present moment, open your thinking to new unexplored ideas, and foster optimism.

Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn describes mindfulness as “paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.” It’s all about tuning into your sense of inner calm so you can be a better conduit for new insights and solutions.

Here’s how mindfulness can be a catalyst for creativity:

1. Adopt a beginner’s mindset

When you’re approaching a new challenge, it’s easy to bring your biases and baggage to the table. However this is the moment to stay open, the root of creativity is embracing the millions of possibilities at your fingertips.

The “beginner’s mindset” is a Buddhist principle practiced at IDEO. It means starting fresh, assuming nothing, and living the question. A lack of deep expertise in a new topic is an opportunity to get creative. Anyone can adopt a beginner’s mindset all that’s required is openness and receptivity.

2. Practice radical acceptance

Accepting the world as it is today requires a willingness to sit with uncomfortable truths and to see problems from all angles before jumping in to solve them.

By accepting a situation, you’re able to consider a better approach from a place of non-resistance. At IDEO, they have a bias toward action: IDEO make lots of tangible creative designs as a way of imagining the future. But action can be so much more impactful when it’s grounded in reality and driven by clear intentions.

3. Drop your ego

Mindfulness teaches us that the ego, the part of us that demands to be “right” is not our true self. Our true self is found in the in-between moments when we’re able to just be the times when we take in what’s around us, quiet our minds, and open ourselves up to feedback from the people we’re designing for.

One way to drop our egos is by creating “sacrificial concepts”, rough concepts and first ideas that could ultimately be cast aside in service of learning. Critiquing a sacrificial concept is an invitation for people to share their reactions without hurting anyone else’s feelings.

People sometimes suffer from the “disease to please,” wanting people to like everything they have come up with. But as we lean into mindfulness, we can learn how to set ego aside. Mindfulness can help your creativity by enabling you to drop your ego.

4. Listen deeply

Have you ever noticed during a conversation that the person you’re talking to is mimicking your posture? If you put your hands on the table, so do they; if you sit up straight, they follow suit. In conversation, people are often looking for an opening to make their next point, rather than paying attention to what’s being said. But if you focus on your own replies, you miss out on the words, tone, and body language of the people around you.

In The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle says that when you practice judgement-free listening, you’re giving another person the power of your presence. At IDEO, every project starts with listening. IDEO’s human-centered, interdisciplinary creative approach means that the whole team learns empathy skills and joins in the creative research process. Listening elevates the voices of the people we’re solving problems for and ensures that their dreams and worries are the starting point.

5. Meditate in order to create

One of the biggest misconceptions about creativity is that creative people always wake up feeling compelled and energised to create. The truth is that this compulsion is often blocked by insecurities or external pressures. In The Untethered Soul, Michael Singer describes these as “samskaras,” or energy blockages, which can be cleared by acknowledging them and focusing on your breathing.

Eckhart Tolle suggests that when you want to be creative, you should go back and forth between breathing and the task at hand every few minutes. Only when you’re clear headed can you open up to possibilities of creating something new, untethered to what has been before.

From an original article published by IDEO, read the original article here

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How Mindfulness Changes Our Brains

How Mindfulness Changes Our Brains

Mindfulness can improve well being and boost a healthy mind in terms of awareness, connection, insight, and purpose.

Richard Davidson has been investigating how mindfulness changes our brains.

He talks about the four pillars of a healthy mind:

1 / Awareness

2 / Connection

3 / Insight

4 / Purpose

Richard Davidson is a professor of psychology and psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin-Madison as well as founder and director of the Center for Healthy Minds.

His research is focused on the neural bases of emotion, emotional style and methods to promote human flourishing, including meditation and related contemplative practices.

He has published more than 400 articles and is the co-author of “The Emotional Life of Your Brain” and “Altered Traits: Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain, and Body”,

In his co-authored book, Altered Traits, he unveils new research showing what meditation can really do for the brain.

In the last 20 years, meditation and mindfulness have gone from being kind of cool to becoming an omnipresent Band-Aid for fixing everything from your weight to your relationship to your achievement level. Unveiling here the kind of cutting-edge research that has made Daniel Goleman and Richard J Davidson giants in their fields, they show us the truth about what meditation can really do for us, as well as exactly how to get the most out of it.

Sweeping away common misconceptions and neuromythology to open listeners’ eyes to the ways data has been distorted to sell mind-training methods, the authors demonstrate that beyond the pleasant states mental exercises can produce, the real payoffs are the lasting personality traits that can result. But short daily doses will not get us to the highest level of lasting positive change even if we continue for years without specific additions.

More than sheer hours, we need smart practice, including crucial ingredients such as targeted feedback from a master teacher and a more spacious, less attached view of the self, all of which are missing in widespread versions of mind training.

The authors also reveal the latest data from Davidson’s own lab that point to a new methodology for developing a broader array of mind-training methods with larger implications for how we can derive the greatest benefits from the practice. Exciting, compelling, and grounded in new research, this is one of those rare books that has the power to change us at the deepest level.

#Neuroscience #Wellbeing #MentalHealth

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