Breath Training
The Tantric sages tell us that our in-breath and out-breath actually mirror the divine creative gesture.
With the inhalation, we draw into our own centre, our own being.
With the exhalation, we expand outward into the world.
– Sally Kempton, Awakening Shakti: The Transformative Power of the Goddesses of Yoga
Here’s a meditative and uplifting music track to practice your breathing exercises with
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Have you ever experienced a moment of sensual ecstasy? How did it make you feel? Exhilarated? Luminous? Deeply connected? Intense sensual experiences are one of our greatest sources of pleasure.
Human beings need and crave intimacy to the core of our being, yet also take great pains to avoid it. We may long to rekindle lost passion, but have forgotten how to light the fire.
The practice of Tantra shows us how to reclaim the sensual intimacy. And through this most ancient of arts, we may discover new joys of the erotic and expand mere moments of sensual ecstasy into a lifetime of intimate bliss. At a time when the stresses, fears and distractions of daily life threaten so many relationships, the ancient tradition of Tantra shows us how to open our hearts, our emotions and our sensuality.
Although Tantra has long been practiced in many eastern cultures, it is just beginning to flourish in the United States and Europe. Tantra originated in India more than 6,000 years ago, Tantra emerged as a rebellion against organised religion, which held that sensual desire should be rejected in order to reach enlightenment.
Tantra challenged the beliefs of that time, purporting that sensual ecstasy was a doorway to the divine, and that earthly pleasures, such as eating, dancing and creative expression were sacred acts.
The word Tantra means “to manifest, to expand, to show and to weave.” In this context, sensuality and intimacy is thought to expand consciousness and to weave together the polarities of male (represented by the Hindu god, Shiva), and female (embodied by the Hindu goddess, Shakti), into a harmonious whole.
Couples need not adopt the Tantric pantheon in order to benefit from the sensual wisdom of this ancient art. Tantric intimate practices teach us to prolong the act of making love and to utilise potent orgasmic energies more effectively.
Tantra is also health enhancing. “Intimate sensual energy is one of our most powerful energies for creating health,” says Christiane Northrup, M.D., author of “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom.”
“By using sensual intimate energy in a conscious way…we can tap into a true source of youth and vitality.”
In the West, we sometimes view intimate sensuality as a source of recreation rather than a means of transformation. The goal may be to reach orgasm rather than to pleasure our lover or to connect with them more fully.
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The tantric massage experience can bring you to a place of deep relaxation in a way that will also enable your whole being to be highly aroused. The massage will begin just like a Swedish or holistic massage and be a full body massage experience including the intimate area of the body. The tantric massage experience combines gentle touch, body massage, relaxing breathing techniques and arousal of the senses. Find out more.
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Tantric Massage can be a pathway to experiencing multiple orgasms.
The experience of an orgasm often bookmarks the end of a sensual experience. However, the experience of a much deeper, full release leading to a multiple orgasm is a sensation that can be experienced through London tantric massage and can benefit intimate pleasure by:
Tantric massage techniques are very valuable in leading you to experience orgasm control with the potential of a deeper orgasm for men and for women through delaying the initial orgasm and prolonging the experience with tantric techniques.
Tantric massage incorporates full body massage, with simple rhythmic breathing, exploring the whole body and stimulating the intimate pleasure zones through massage in a way that prolongs the pleasure experienced. The idea is to be fully relaxed through massage allowing you to be submerged in to a blissed out state where the arousal experience can be fully appreciated as you receive the loving touch of your tantric partner.
A much deeper and fuller release can send waves of energy flowing throughout the whole body. I have seen many experience this full body orgasm as they experience a deeper, more “full” sensation of release. In my own sensual practice I have used tantric techniques to prolong my own orgasm, experiencing the different sensations that a tantric orgasm can create.
The tantric orgasm is not a rushed one; allowing time for your whole body to unwind, finding a relaxed space, enabling you to open up to a slow burn of arousal, coming up to the point of orgasm, stopping just before the point of no return and after a few minutes of rest beginning the arousal experience again. The repeating of this many times can lead to a deep, full release with the potential of a multiple orgasm.
There are some good resources that can begin your exploration of tantric massage techniques. These two books in particular are excellent resources that give a good foundation for the tantra ethos and practical guidance.
“Lingham massage, awakening male sexual energy” by Michaela Riedl and Jurgen Becker, & “Yoni Massage, awakening female sexual energy” by Michaela Riedl.
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The first phase of preparing to massage your partner is to begin with the intention to honour them and enabling them to receive.
As the giving partner, prepare a loving, pleasant and warm space. The space can include fresh towels to lay on, a calm atmosphere can be created by candles and relaxing music. Prepare all the things you will need for the massage including oil (e.g. grapeseed oil) and towels. You may want to warm the oil by placing the bottle of massage oil in a warm cup of water. As the giving partner lead the massage session.
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Tantric massage reconnection describes the ability for tantric massage to open the opportunity for you to connect to your body, feeling aware of your full body and the sensations you experience.
There are many aspects to Tantra, from the conscious channelling of sexual energy, to a celebration of acceptance, awareness of your body, spontaneity, focussing your sexual energy to experience body orgasms that are deep and prolonged. Breath work similar to that used in yoga can be used to help you relax and connect to your body, unwinding from the busy life you experience.
A tantric massage in London integrates elements from ancient tantric traditions combined with holistic massage, allowing the whole self to dissolve in to a realm of pampering and bliss.
Massaging the body into a state of relaxation, touch that caresses your body, intimately massaging the receiver and awakening their sexual energy.
Throughout the tantric massage the sexual energy is brought up to peaks and allowed to ebb away again, as your whole body relaxes using long and deep massage strokes.
Tantric massage reconnection is the opportunity that tantric massage offers to improve the quality of your connection to your body and enables you to re-focus your sexual energy in a way that is nurturing and promotes wellbeing.
Tantra and tantric eastern traditions are ways of living with consciousness about your being, being aware in each moment, of yourself, those around you and to the full expression of existence, choosing an openness to life, in every thought and emotion.
You may have seen the tantric massage for men include the word Lingam, this is simply the Sanskrit word for the intimate male body. Tantric massage for women often included the word Yoni which is the Sanskrit word for the intimate female body.
It is best to suspend all expectations or goals and approach each session as an exploration of new sensations. The goal orientated mind is set in its ways. Exploration and finding new experiences for your body, your sensuality, your sense of self, requires an openness.
The tantric massage experience is not solely to achieve orgasm, although orgasm is often a pleasant and welcome part of the Lingam or Yoni massage experience. Tantric massage is about being able to receive pleasure. When orgasm does occur it is usually more expanded, more intense and more satisfying. Tantric Lingam or Yoni massage gives you the opportunity to enjoy a full body massage, including the intimate part of the body, to receive pleasure and relax into yourself.
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There’s something very erotic and sensual about breathing in unison with your lover.
It’s a connecting moment where you are paying attention to each other and bringing your energy together. Breathing in this way can feel playful, sensual and joyful.
You may feel self conscious or silly asking your partner to sit with you and breath together. Many partners find it difficult to even look at each other directly in the eye for anything more than a brief moment. They are unable to truly look and gaze into the eyes of their lover, drinking in what they see and build that intimate connection.
When we did lose our ability to really connect with each other? How did we lose the ability or willingness to be close? What events could have taken that away from you? I will let you consider that for yourself as we are all individual and the reasons for why we push people away or don’t let them close is different for everyone. The first step is being aware whether you are truly allowing yourself to be connected with and have the door open to connecting with your intimate partner.
When you are ready to begin this journey of true intimate connection then I recommended the following playful and erotic breathing experience.
Before you begin really ask yourself, am I open to connecting with this person and letting them in? The answer needs to be a joyful and accepting yes. If it isn’t then it sounds like you are not ready for this, take a step back and think about what is holding you back.
Here’s a step by step guide to breathing together and eye gazing with your lover.
1. Intention and permission
Permission
For you both to come together this was way there needs to be permission given to enter into this experience. There is an equality in this experience, a balance. There is not a moment of euphoria for one and not the other. You both share in this experience equally at the same time.
Ask each other, “can I sit with you and can we try breathing together?” or “can we share in this experience of siting together and looking into each other’s eyes, I want to feel close to you?”
Set your intentions
You are here to truly accept the person before you and for yourself to be unconditionally accepted. If you have resentment or anger towards the person in front of you, then you cannot truly accept them. Coming together in this way needs a clean slate. There needs to be a forgiveness of anything which has so far not been forgiven.
When your intention is to unconditionally accept the person before you, then you are ready to begin.
2. Space
Create a warm and inviting space which is comfortable for you both to sit close together.
3. Position
Sit together in a comfortable position, where you can both see each other’s face. You can sit cross legged together or entwined, whatever feels comfortable for both of you.
4. Touch
Place your hand on each other’s chest. You may want to place your hands on each other’s heart. You may want to ask each other’s permission before you do this “can I touch you here?” or “can I connect with you?” whatever permission language works for you and your partner.
5. Sight
Hopefully you have already been looking at each other and not elsewhere. Now that you have connected through touch you can connect intentionally through sight.
Look at your partner’s face, and focus on their eyes. Look into their eyes with your intention of acceptance, care and joy. You may want to pick one of their eyes to focus on, and take these moments to truly look at each other. It may take practice to feel very comfortable doing this. Looking into your partner’s eyes builds intimacy.
6. Breathe
You can add breathing together. Take a deep slow breath in unison and exhale together. If it helps count to five in your mind to inhale and count five to exhale. Pay attention to how your partner breathes and mirror their slow and deep breath. You can try different breathing exercises together, for example your partner takes a breath first and exhales, as they exhale you inhale. This breath exercise can feel like a wave of energy between you.
When you approach these activities they are not to be thought of as chores or tasks, take a playful approach, it does not have to be perfect, adapt this to work for you. The most important element is the intention to unconditionally accept each other.
When you have experienced looking into each other’s eyes, breathing together and being with each other in this way, it is possible for your empathy and emotions towards your lover to open up in new ways.
Try it. It might be daunting at first. Follow this guide to help you along the way. Breathing together can bring a deeper sense of intimacy between you and your partner.
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Kundalini awakening refers to Kundalini or “coiled one” in Hinduism which is said to be a form of divine energy or shakti. You may have heard a lot of about the Kundalini as it has become a bit of a buzz word. Kundalini awakening is frequently reported to be a distinct feeling of electric current running along the spine. It derives its name through a focus on awakening energy said to be located at the base of the spine.
It was originally an important concept in Śaiva Tantra, where it was seen as a force or power associated with the divine feminine, which when cultivated and awakened through tantric practice, could lead to spiritual liberation.
Kundalini is also a practice within yoga, for example Kundalini yoga is a school of yoga that is influenced by Shaktism and Tantra schools of Hinduism. It derives its name through a focus on awakening kundalini energy through regular practice of mantra, tantra, yantra, yoga or meditation.
Kundalini yoga combines asana, pranayama, music, mantra and meditation, which can lead to a profound sense of personal transformation. Yoga Bajan first introduced Kundalini yoga from India to the West in 1969 and it quickly grew in popularity, with teachers developing a variety of different styles.
The practice of Kundalini awakening through yoga, tantra and mediation arouses the sleeping Kundalini energy or Shakti from its coiled base through the six chakras that are said to reside along the spine.
Through tantric massage, feeling relaxed, using breathing techniques as desired, exploring touch, sensuality and waves of energy to a climatic release, an awakening of energy and wellbeing can be experienced.
Tantra Massage is a leaf out of Tantra Yoga. It’s an effort to experience the very deepest valley of relaxation. Awakening of your dormant kundalini energy, enabling it to move upwards. Making one revitalize their energy which is livelier, more alive and more radiant.
Tantra massage sets out to free blocked energy throughout the body and awaken the Kundalini, potent energy that lies to rest at the base of the spine.
When the Kundalini rises from its restful state, it spreads out along the spine and precipitates healing throughout the body.
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Orgasmic intelligence is to know when to interact with the tantalising power and crescendo of orgasm and when to embrace sensuality and intimacy as an expression of connection.
Orgasmic Intelligence (OI) is an individual’s response to their innate orgasmic state and potential.
Orgasmic intelligence is not always related to a sexual experience, but it’s always related to our sexual energy, which is our life force. How you experience and feel about your intimate sexual life impacts the whole of your life, they way you see yourself and others.
Alfred Kinsey the first scientist to study human sexuality in detail, once likened the orgasm to “the crescendo, climax and sudden stillness achieved by an orchestra of human emotions, …an explosion of tensions”
Ann Summers released the results of a sensual survey where they got to know the population’s orgasms and sensual behaviour a little better. What did the survey reveal…?
Dr Brooke Magnanti writing in The Telegraph today reports that we have focussed too much on ‘the orgasm’ and this idea of ‘good sex’.
Her article encourages us to relax and not over focus on the orgasm itself, but revel in the whole art of love making, enjoying touch, visuals, slow dancing, the scent of your partner’s skin, talking, soft caress, the taste of their kiss and really the whole ensemble rather than one final crescendo moment.
Celebrate the orgasm yes, as fabulous as it is, those waves of pleasure, but look at the bigger picture and the whole sensual adventure of intimacy.
Understand that your intimate sensual experiences impact how you feel about yourself and the life that you live, your connection to others.
Read more of Dr Brooke Magnanti’s article in The Telegraph here.
FBSM
A full body sensual massage or fbsm, is a massage experience for you which includes the whole body, including the intimate area. A full body sensual massage is the perfect way to relax as your massage therapist glides their hands across your body. This means that you are receiving the massage, not giving the massage. You are invited to relax, rest and let go of any stress.
Full body sensual massage includes body to body massage where your massage therapist glides their body across your back, so that you feel their curves and caress. This enhances the sensual and erotic nature of the massage. For those who would prefer to leave this out they can opt for a massage without the more sensual elements.
Throughout the full body massage the intimate area will be massaged, bringing you to the peak of arousal and then slowing down the arousal several times throughout the experience to an orgasmic release at the end.
For men they can reach the peak of arousal several times during the full body massage experience. Letting their sexual energy rise and fall. For people who experience premature ejaculation or are new to holding back their orgasmic release, your massage therapist can teach you techniques which can help to hold back. These include slow breathing, paying attention to how aroused you feel and squeezing the pelvic floor muscles. I have seen many men achieve holding back as desired when these exercises are repeated.
For women the intimate massage can be included or not, as they request. Women who experience a full body massage can let go and feel completely cared for, feeling aroused and letting the arousal grow into an orgasmic release. Your massage therapist is there to guide you through the full body massage experience.
There are many different areas of the body to focus on, combining them all together in a single session will provide the ultimate erotic massage.
After your full body sensual massage you will feel relaxed, euphoric and rested. It’s a unique combination which will keep you coming back for more to experience its pleasures.
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Tantric literature is written in Sanskrit with the exception of approximately a thousand texts in Pali, Prakrit, Tibetan, Hindi, and Bengali.
The tantric literature is so vast that it is almost impossible to study it all, let alone practice a significant fraction of it, although a true adept might be able to practice all the tantric disciplines in a thousand lifetimes.
This vast body of literature represents the cumulative knowledge of tantric masters over millennia, and by the 10th century a.d. the volume of tantric literature had become so huge and varied that scholars did not know how to categorise it.
Because some sort of system was required, different approaches were adopted, some based on geography, others on the religious flavour of the texts, and still others on the ritual objects used in the practices.
All tantric texts and the techniques they describe, however, have one characteristic in common: an integrative approach to sadhana (a disciplined and dedicated practice or learning), with the objective of making the best use of all available resources within and without.
According to tantric literature, the human body is the apex of creation, which is why gaining complete knowledge of the human body and how its active and dormant forces correspond to the forces of the cosmos is the highest tantric discovery.
Through their own direct experience, hundreds of masters confirmed the tantric premise that whatever is in the cosmos can also be found in a human being because the whole universe lies within every human.
Thus tantric practitioners throughout the ages have involved themselves in exploring uncharted ground. They learned which particular herbs, minerals, and metals correspond to a specific part of the body or to its functioning forces. They experimented with the power of sound (mantra), form, colour, and shape (yantra), and discovered how they influence both humans and the different aspects of nature.
They studied the subtle properties of animals, herbs, and minerals, and found ways of awakening their dormant forces to activate mantra, yantra, and finally the power of mind.
In the process they discovered how the energies of herbs, minerals, gems, planets, and constellations correspond to different parts of the human body. These findings resulted in the development of tantric systems of medicine, astrology, and alchemy.
Tantra is a holistic approach to sadhana, (a disciplined and dedicated practice or learning), holding that to experience the beauty and joy contained in the fabric of life we must weave together all its constituent threads.
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This article is an extract from https://yogainternational.com/article/view/the-living-science-of-tantra-part-3